To start with, nothing justifies rape. Rape being what it is, is a demonic sexual knowledge of a woman by a man and vice versa against her consent. I said demonic because a man has a lot of things to his rescue whenever he is horny and under such pressure for the kind of relief a woman brings. There are soaps hence we called it Igba ncha in my Igbo language when we were in Secondary school, then, there is cream and oil lotion to help a man achieve relief in good time and get over the swelling tension building within and around his groin. There is sex doll as a new and trending way a man who can afford such bizarre luxury can achieve same end instead of hunting a woman and pinning her down against her wish and readiness for love making.

For the women, we have been inundated with use of banana hence Davido sang that banana should fall on his girlfriend – whatever that means if I should pretend I’m ignorant of what that means, then they equally have cucumber and vibrator to take away their loneliness.

Therefore, nothing justifies such an aggressive profiling by sexual abusers like rapists.

On the other hand, there are men who believe that nothing beats the natural means of escape as provided men by God whenever they are under such pressure. Well, each to their own taste, but I say a categorical no to rape of any kind.

Someone was arguing this topic with me as a result of the trending story of a woman who screamed RAPE over the head of a man she got into such a situation in the first place only for her to ask him to stop in the middle of the act and when he didn’t, she came up on social media to scream RAPE! Yes, she felt violated but that does not mean a woman does not have the right to withdraw consent in the middle of foreplay and even in during the very act.

My friend argued by telling me that only men understood what it means to be asked to stop when they are on the giddy heights of ecstasy. He insisted that it is not easy for anybody to jump out a moving train. Interesting, but! That men and women are wired differently. I agree. We are not wired alike.

And that is from where I insisted that hence male and female are wired differently, the man should have been civilized enough to withdraw or wankout his pressure instead of being termed a rapist. One’s good name is better than sex. This sexual dalliance between the two lovers started as a consensual one, but degenerated to rape charge by the woman in question who stopped enjoying the sex after climaxing. Her reason for asking her lover to stop could have stemmed from the fact that her lover is big and therefore she felt more of pains than pleasure which the act is meant to provide them. In the end, I say the woman is selfish. Gross too! But a real man shouldn’t pin her down when she asked for a breather and use any of the means already suggested to relieve tension instead of continuing in pleasuring himself to climax to the pains and frustrations of the woman whose love trove may have ran dry and bleeding as a result of mindless thrusts.

Enough said!